Reason Why Child Is Unmotivated (With Homework)

Most children do not like to do homework, hence, will not want to do homework. The thing is most children will eventually get the homework done, although the child will tend to put up quite a fuss while doing it.

Some child have a larger problem than just being unmotivated. The child may appear to be unmotivated, but this may just be a mask to a larger issue. The child may be avoiding homework to protect their egos. Yes, even child have egos.

What do I mean when I say protecting egos by avoiding homework?

Because these children erroneously equate failure with stupidity. Their logic is as follows... If they try and fail, it is a reflection of their intelligence. If they don’t try and fail, it is not a reflection of their intelligence. It is due to lack of motivation or irresponsibility.

For many, it is easier to live with the label "lazy" rather than with the label "stupid". Who will want to be label as being dumb?!

So parents out there, please stop using the words stupid/dumb/pig or any other negative words on your precious child. It will lower their self-esteem, leading to poorer performance in all areas of life and eventually affecting their adulthood. I believe it is never your intention to create such harm. Just that you didn't realise how your words can influence your child and people so greatly.

Next time, when you see that your child is "unmotivated", encourage your child by saying he/she is smart/great and you are confident that he/she can complete the task. Help your child along with encouraging words and actions.

Enjoy parenting. =)