Journal Your Feelings & Thoughts

From time to time, you may feel upset, angry or disturbed by some events in your life. It is useful for you to be aware of the reason that is causing you to feel the way you feel. You will know yourself better too.

A journal will be able to help you with this. There are four steps that you should do while writing your journal.

Step 1: Write only the facts about the event (no interpretations).

Step 2: Write down how you felt.

Step 3: Write down the perceptions that made you feel that way. (What were you saying to yourselfs that caused the emotions?)

Step 4: What would have been a better or more useful perception to have at the time?

Don't Give Up

As a child we all have dreams but somehow along the way we lost sight of it. Many of us gave up on our dreams or simply stop believing in it and hide it somewhere till we forgot about it.

Why? What happen along the way?

Well we somehow got demoralised and ...

You may have hear this - "Don't give up on your dreams!" - numerous times.

Don't get demoralised, don't think that you can't do what other people can. You shouldn't underestimate your potential.

What You Wish You Had Known

Have you ever caught yourself saying, how I wish I had known this earlier or how I wish someone have told me earlier?

What I really hope or wish to know when I am in high school but I didn't is…

What do I want to do with my life or what do I want do in the future?

In my personal point of view this is a very important question to ask yourself.You will find that people are always asking you this, so you think you are supposed to have an answer. But adults ask this mainly as a conversation starter. They want to know what sort of person you are, and this question is just to get you talking.

If I were back in high school and someone asked about my plans. I will say that it is to learn what the options were.

What you must do is to discover what you like. This is important because if you want to be good at what you do, you have to like what you are doing. It might seem that nothing would be easier than deciding what you like, but you will be surprise to find out that it is not as easy as you think, partly because it is hard to get an accurate picture of most jobs. What we think it is, may not be what it really is. To have a clear picture, be in it or ask the people that is already doing it.

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Getting More From Your Sleep

Losing sleep is directly linked to poor focus and memory. Therefore, sleep is extremely vital for your overall productivity.

Below are the ways to get more sleep:

1. Wind down. Give yourself 30 minutes to relax before going to bed. You can read a book, listen to music or write your journal.

2. Clear your mind (from your mental to-do list). Write down your list of unfinished tasks and unresolved issues before going to bed. Knowing that you have put it down on paper, you will be less worried for not remembering what you have to do the following day. This frees up your mental space and allows you to sleep more peacefully.

3. Go to bed earlier. Set yourself a bedtime and stick to it. If your usual sleeping time is 1am, you may want to adjust slowly by heading to bed at 1230am instead. Continue to adjust your sleeping bedtime until you reach your target.

Reason Why Child Is Unmotivated (With Homework)

Most children do not like to do homework, hence, will not want to do homework. The thing is most children will eventually get the homework done, although the child will tend to put up quite a fuss while doing it.

Some child have a larger problem than just being unmotivated. The child may appear to be unmotivated, but this may just be a mask to a larger issue. The child may be avoiding homework to protect their egos. Yes, even child have egos.

What do I mean when I say protecting egos by avoiding homework?

Because these children erroneously equate failure with stupidity. Their logic is as follows... If they try and fail, it is a reflection of their intelligence. If they don’t try and fail, it is not a reflection of their intelligence. It is due to lack of motivation or irresponsibility.

For many, it is easier to live with the label "lazy" rather than with the label "stupid". Who will want to be label as being dumb?!

So parents out there, please stop using the words stupid/dumb/pig or any other negative words on your precious child. It will lower their self-esteem, leading to poorer performance in all areas of life and eventually affecting their adulthood. I believe it is never your intention to create such harm. Just that you didn't realise how your words can influence your child and people so greatly.

Next time, when you see that your child is "unmotivated", encourage your child by saying he/she is smart/great and you are confident that he/she can complete the task. Help your child along with encouraging words and actions.

Enjoy parenting. =)

How Do You Choose The Career That's Best For You?

Truth be told, we all have different talents, skills, interests, experiences and expectations. So what the other person loves doing may not be what you will love to do. So here comes the big question, how do you choose the career that is best for you?

Well, here is what you should consider...

What are your natural talents?

All of us have natural talents within us. Certain things comes really easily to one and not to others. For example, some are very good at making friends while not others. The point is when we use our natural talents, we go into this "flow" state, where time moves so quickly and we just enjoy doing it. Knowing what your natural talents are is key to choosing the right career.

Of course there are many more than just this. Afterall, we are capable of doing many other things, however, it may mean that we will require more energy (effort) perfoming the task.

Journey To Finding The Career You Love

It is common for many of us not to know what we want to do (our career). Most of us are absolutely clueless. Most of the people I know will simply take any job that is being offered, as long as the salary is right. To be honest, I did that too.

Sooner or later, if you do not feel fulfilled in your job, you will eventually feel unhappy.

So what can you do?

The thing is to find the career that you want to be in. So that you will not feel like you are just working purely for the money.

This leads to the next question. What career do I want to be in? Matter of fact, most of us do not know what we really want to do for a career.

Then how?

Start on a journey to discover what will make you energise and engage.

Well, I personally suggest that you take up this ongoing habit of asking this two questions (when you are in your job):

1. What do I love about this?
2. What do I dislike about this?


It's not what you love, it's why you love it.


When you have an answer to either of the above questions, ask yourself "WHY?". This question is really important. It will help you discover more about what makes you tick and what irritates you. For example, "I enjoy engaging with people during my work.", you ask why and discover, "I loved the fact that I am helping others to resolve their problems." Knowing why you love it lets you be more aware about what's unique and individual to you.

Slowly, you will start to find out more about yourself and the career path that you should and will want to go into. You can also ask people that is in the line to share more about their job. Chances are you will gain lots of insight from it. =)

Pick the one that feels best, that will light you up, that you will look foward to everyday. The best part? You will be better at what you do since you love it, and you will never feel like you are working. All the best in your journey! ^_^